Is fear your boss? In other words, is fear the thing that dictates what you do on a daily basis? Jesus says in John 10:10:

 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”

I believe the thing that keeps most women from living a truly abundant life is that they have let fear be their boss. You see, Satan is a thief and a liar. He steals your confidence. He steals your freedom. He kills your relationships. He keeps you trapped at home, thinking you are in your “comfort zone”,  isolated, alone, missing out on time with friends and family and having meaningful experiences and opportunities to be used by God.

His weapon is fear. He whispers to you, “You can’t do that.  You aren’t good at that. That would be really scary. You will fail. It is better to just accept that this is who you are.”   Giving in to that fear and avoiding hard things, things that stretch you, keeps you chained up and isolated.

However, if you have committed your life to Christ, you are a new creation and have the Holy Spirit of God living within you. You have everything you need to overcome this fear. You don’t have to let fear rule.

In Romans 8:15, Paul says,

” So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children.

The truth is, facing the fears that keep us stuck builds confidence and opens doors for God to use us.  We don’t build strength and character by doing the things that we are naturally good at it and sticking to the things that come easily to us. We build character when we work hard to do things that are hard, when we do the right thing even when it seems scary.

So the question is, what are you afraid to do? What would your life look like if you were able to do it? Did God give you that fear? If your fear is not from God, then why are you obeying it?

Letting fear be your boss by listening to those irrational fears and letting them define you, is most likely the very thing that has kept you from having the relationships and experiences that God intended for you to have.  Think about how this affects your children (no matter their age.) You can have tremendous impact on your children and your legacy by showing them how to face fear head-on and trust God in your weaknesses, or you can let living in fear be a part of your legacy. You teach one or the other through what you live. I don’t know a single mother who wants her children to be fearful, lacking in confidence, and stuck. We fail to realize that we mold our children and how they approach life through our words and actions everyday.

Don’t let another day go by listening to fear. Get out there and LIVE THE LIFE God intended for you to live. Do it today, because none of us are promised another day. The only real failure in life is listening to fear and never trying.